I actually had to ask my mom (who is lesbian) about what she thought. Basically, if your friend has expressed to you that she is uncomfortable with being with a girl, then you really need to think before you do anything. You need to be able to weigh how much your friendship means to you and how much your personal need to admit these feelings mean to you. If she has expressed discomfort, you need to accept the fact that if you tell her, depending on age/maturity, you do have a chance to lose this friendship. If your friendship with this girl really means a lot to you, then you need to put your personal feelings below your friendship. If it is the other way around, then go ahead. There may or may not come a time when, if let’s say she didn’t reciprocate your feelings, that she would be polite enough to say “I’m flattered, but I don’t feel the same way, we can still be friends.” But until you think she’s at that point, I think it’s nice to respect her, and to understand that for her in particular, being with another woman makes her feel uncomfortable. I’m not saying that you need to hide or that you should lie or that you should even listen to anything I just wrote, because if your need to express who you are and what you feel for this person is immense, you should tell them. I just think you should really evaluate all of the possible outcomes if you were to tell her.
Hm. I’ve also never smoked, but honestly weed is one of those drugs that just makes you very calm. You don’t go crazy from it and it’s not like LCD where you can do it once and like 40 years later still be in weird trips. Don’t do cocaine by the way, like if you’re going to try and experiment with drugs don’t do cocaine. That’s a “the first time you do it you have a high risk of dying” sort of drug. Weed is something not that addictive, but it’s really about what you want to or don’t want to do. Personally, I’m not into drugs or alcohol, but whatever you do is your choice. If you’re really young, i.e. 16 and under, just really think about it before you make a choice like this, because in all seriousness, smoking weed every once and awhile wont kill you, but it’s something you don’t want to form into a drug habit. If you do end up smoking, try and make sure someone there is sober, not going to lie. You need to be around level headed people during this. Also, for more drug facts, doing X can make your brain look literally like swiss cheese, so don’t do that one.
I did something close to the same thing. I liked someone and I didn’t know how to deal with it and so I pushed him away and now we don’t talk anymore. It’s sad. Even if it’s a complicated mess and you don’t like the best friend back, then you should tell this dude how you feel. Try and just talk with him, honestly talking just helps. Don’t over complicate things, my friends do that all the time a it real screws them up.
I do the same thing all the time. What you need to remember is that, even if it makes you sad, they’re allowed to like whomever they choose to like, and you should be happy if they’re happy, even if you’re going to feel like complete shit. I honestly do the same thing. One little shot of my crush and a girl laughing and I’m in a jealous rage and then I get depressed. I honestly just try to convince myself that I’m overthinking it all, and it’s because I am. You need to just relax about it, and that sounds harsh but that’s not how I mean it. Think about all the times you have laughing fits with other people. You’re not necessarily having a “thing” with them. That’s what I do. Or I eat a gallon of ice cream I mean whatever makes you happy.
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Oooo I totally understand that. No problem! Always good to know I’m helping :D It’s definitely always hard to talk to someone you don’t really know, but it’s even harder if you like that person. I’d try to just play it cool and then, since we don’t want any detentions, talk to him outside of class, like I said about homework or clarification questions etc. Or ask him if he understands what class was about, if he says yeah ask if he can tutor you or something. Good luck!
You need to talk to your friend one on one before you do anything and you need to be honest with her. Friends are more important than love life things. You can fall in and out of love so many times, but you only get a few people in the world who know how weird you are and like you regardless. Talk to her and tell her what’s up. If she says she’s not comfortable, you need to not go out with this guy. When you tell him, be honest with him too. He may not be cool with it obviously, and you’ll probably be sad, but know it’s for the best. If your friend is cool with it and you’re 100% sure she’s cool with it, then go for it.