Anonymous asked:

There is a guy who I have known for years and we had a thing for each other but nothing ever happened. After graduating high school we lost touch but randomly ran into each other every now and then. One time he asked for my number but never got in touch with me. Recently I bumped into him and hung out with him and his friends for a while and we were kinda flirty. One of my friends has his number and I thought about asking for it so maybe I could hang out with him and reconnect. Is that weird?

I would try to get his number yourself. It’s sort of weird if you get it through a friend just because it’s like, “wait how’d you get my number?” Otherwise, totally go for it.

Anonymous asked:

So there's this guy and he used to like me and I used to like him. But then he friend zoned me cause It was awkward cause we couldn't talk in person we were both to scared. And hes been texting me he misses me and stuff. But he's such a flirt and talks to like every girl. And he's also really popular and everyone likes him! Should I waste my time on him again?

I’m not sure how you friendzone someone when you’re not even really friends because it’s so awkward to talk to them. Seems a little odd. I mean, some people are flirty, and you can’t really control that, but you should try to actually talk in person. See FAQ #3/4

Anonymous asked:

how long should a "cool off" in a relationship be?

After a fight? I would give it as little amount of time as possible. I understand that cooling off is a good thing sometimes after a fight, but try not to leave a fight with unresolved problems. If you’re talking about cooling off as in like, we’re getting somewhat sexual but don’t want to have sex, then I’d give it a solid 4 minutes or so. Cold showers.

Anonymous asked:

when will i know when the relationship is not worth fighting for anymore? im in a relationship with this person for 5 years. it was all good until 2 years ago, he pursued someone else.. after a time we reconciled and things started to get better between us coz i saw his sincerity.. but recently, i found out and he admitted that found a hot girl on facebook attractive(a stranger) . i feel so hurt and betrayed all over again, he kips aplogizing. i want to believe him but i cant..wat shud i do..

This relationship is not worth fighting for. It stopped being worth it when he semi cheated and when he pursues others. I think you deserve someone better, who will be glad to have you and you alone.

Anonymous asked:

So I like 2 guys...ones the class clown but is also sweet and the other is really sweet and is friends with everyone. I just don't know if the "class clown" has a serious side, which is really important to me, but the other does. I hate liking 2 guys

It’s not a crime to like two people at once, if you and both said people are single. What is wrong is lead both guys on and toy with them. That’s mean and wrong and don’t do that. But you’re allowed to like more than one person, just try to make up your mind to see who you like quickly. I’ve told many people to make lists of what they like about a person. Try to avoid appearances, because sure, you might love their smile or their eyes, but turn that into: I love how every little thing makes them smile or how they look at me when they think I can’t see.

Anonymous asked:

So this boy. Was OBBSESSED wit me nd he really liked me but I was kinda in a Relationship but when I "broke up" wit my "bf" nd I started liking the boy that really liked me nd I didn't tell him at first just bcuse I thought it was a little soon but then he started liking some1 else cuse all his friends said he waited for me too long 😔 nd den he was going out wit dat gurl for about 2 weeks (not long) nd now he likes my best friend😭😭 he know nd she knows dat I like! But I can't get between dem!

I agree that you can’t get between them. I mean, you can’t force someone to like you. Sometimes people fall for each other at wrong periods in time, or usually at different times. It’s rare to like someone and to have them like you back, I’ve learned that. And sometimes you think that this one person is your entire universe, and then they end up not liking you and the world seems like it’s going to end and how will you ever find true love now? But sometimes you and that person are just not meant to be together. And if you are, I believe that you’ll find a way back to each other. I would try and focus on someone else. If you two happen to find your way back to this other guy, and him find a way back to you, then great. But don’t obsess over this.

Anonymous asked:

how do I find the FAQ's???

On my blog, on the left, there’s three horizontal black bars. Click those. A dark grey screen should slide out. On it, you can see just posts, just advice, your crushes, ask, submit, and FAQ. Click the FAQ.

Anonymous asked:

Oh btw, he acts like really different around me. If I'm around he acts like weird so I've to look at him and laugh. Also, if my best friend talks to him they can have a good conversation and if I join the conversation he will acts really shy and just stare at me with one big smile. He isn't a touchy person, so that he touched me was like a 'OH MY GOD HE IS TOUCHING ME OH MY GOD' moment. His friends also know about me I guess. One of his best friends always gives me 'the look', like really daring

I would just flirt with him, I mean it seems from what you told me that it’s totally possible he likes you. Be confident and flirt it up, maybe try hanging out just the two of you sometime?

Anonymous asked:

(I am the same person who sent you the message about me coming to highschool in USA and making friends) I also discoverd when I left Brazil, that the guy I liked, liked me too, & that on my last day of school in Brazil, he wanted to tell me how he felt but he didn't have a chance. So my friend told me about that, and he came up to talk to me online, and we messaged (very sweetly) for about 2 weeks.But he never texts me anymore. I'll only see him in 6 months, what should I do? I realy like him..

Then wait for six months. I mean, if you care that much about someone, wait. It’s not that big a deal. If they really liked you, then I’m sure in six months, they’ll be happy to see you when you get back. Don’t stress out too much.

Anonymous asked:

My life is bassicly a confusing mess rn, I have lived for 10 years in brazil (I'm 15) and this month I moved to the usa alone to live w/ my grandparents and study here for 6 months. So yesterday was my first day of highschool and here is a really little town, so everyone alredy has friends and knows each other, except me. I am trying to make friends, but it's impossible, I am walking alone all the time and missing my brazilian friends. Although I'm not staying here forever, I'm not fiting in..

I’m a freshman in college. I’m awkward as fuck. I honestly didn’t think that I’d make many friends at my college because I’m honestly shy and socially awkward. I put my best foot forward and decided to be bold. I was louder than I’d ever been in high school, and I now have a great group of friends and a boyfriend. It’s all about setting a goal in your mind and pushing yourself to achieve it. The great thing about freshman year is that everyone gets to meet everyone else. Make an effort to talk to one new person a day. Then two. Keep putting forth effort. If you don’t want to be social, just focus on your studies. It’s normal to miss old friends, but you can’t expect to make new friends if you don’t try.

elira32 asked:

I feel pretty freaking lame.... I can't talk to a woman anymore, I can barely say hello. I guess being single for 5 years has taken its toll lol even tho I did hook up with plenty before it was the college days, but it was just 1 night stands......

Okay well let me tell you that a guy having confidence is sexy in itself. If you want a relationship, just put yourself out there. Be yourself, girls hate people who aren’t real with them. Listening and being caring and compassionate is like the ideal, but I’m a believer that there’s someone out there for most people (I mean, I think there are some truly sick or creepily unhealthy people in the world who hopefully don’t have counterparts). So even if you aren’t the “ideal,” there’s someone out there who will want to be with you. Be yourself, have fun, be confident. Go forth and prosper :D